Often the thing I struggle the most often with is the ultimate feeling of loneliness. Its really silly in my eyes to let it get to me the way it does, but I feel it, and I cringe and want to run. This feeling stems from a desire to have love. It is truly where my life has been stagnant. I long to "aquire" love. I long for it the way I imagine the desert longs for water, like its a necessity. I feel as though once it becomes mine, it will "fix' all my other difficulities. Love is afterall the magical cure all, right? If when I do find it, I tell myself, I am sure to find financial stablility, friendship, passion, and a helper. Finding this cure to all that ails me, however, remains illusive. To find lasting companionship is one of the most unattainable an unreachable goals I have ever had.
I wonder why it is that I want "it" so badly. Why am I so discontent to feel alone. It is something I have felt for years. The counselor in me... tries to rationalize my feelings. Saying of course you feel this way look at event XYZ. But even before XYZ I felt it. I remember feeling the longing at a very young age. I know that part of my feelings are normal, as part of the 'human condition'. To long for something more than ourselves, is somewhat the essence of what makes us all tick. My longing, my desire, is also where I fill up my life in places to avoid.. living. Its so hard. I would rather go for a drive, sleep, read, or watch a movie. All just so I do not have to sit with loneliness.
Why is lonely so unacceptable to me. Why is longing so utterly painful. Its a question I believe can have a hundred reasons but truly the only answer is.. it must be accepted. Nothing lasts. Nothing. All that is ever guaranteed is death. This guarantee has me striving to accept, to be content. I do not know when the end is coming for me. But it is. I do not want to waste whats left of living on being discontent with what I have been given. I have been gifted loneliness. The longing for a mate. Its time I accept my position. Its time to sit with loneliness and be ok with in it. I just need to figure out how and I need to start now.
I wrote this poem not too long ago, seems fitting:
I see you now
In a sea of faces who feel unknown
Hidden from humanity,
I cry alone
Desperate to collide with another being,
Notice the waters rise,
Theres no use fleeing
Drowning slowly now,
contentment seems to fit
Unforeseen you appear having nothing to omit
Caught off guard by desire,
I fail to stay afloat
No intention or any promised note
Seemingly you are all I desire
So fond of the idea,
its all I longed to acquire
Loosing interest, you slowly start to float away
Damaged, I see you now,
stay
The pain I recognize in you makes me alert
Struggling,
now I begin to hurt
Floating to surface now, gasping
I watch you go,
my longing fading, collapsing
Alone again in this sea of faces
Waiting for one to fill these spaces
