What is my life if not attrition

I think about who I used to be and compare her to the current version. Its interesting to read old blogs, old poetry, old journals.. I like the old girl. The new me is intent on pretending to not be lost. I was content before. I knew I was lost. I knew it sucked, I embraced it.

It seems life and the people in it, want you to buy the fairy tale. If you don't, pretend to be happy, because it could be alot worse. Its true it could be a lot worse. I know this. Part of my imbalance has so much to do with the state of affairs for others. Not saying I'm completely unselfish, in fact I am completely selfish. Its hard to enjoy moments of "glory" with out feeling a sting of guilt.

The guilt of I didn't finish my dessert.. there are plenty of people who have never had Deseret. The guilt of not speaking up, when I can. There are so many women around the world beaten to death just for being themselves... and at least I live somewhere I can attempt to be me. If everyone had the same opportunities as me, it would be easier to enjoy my moments of glory.

I have become the antithesis of me. NO longer standing firm with who I am, I just hide. I don't have a me any more. All that was good, isn't. I feel like expectations and people just kept pounding. Building the war against me. I fought, and fought to stay unique... but the pressure of being me and staying true to me was to much to bear.

I get bought so easily. A glance. A pretty color. So easily distracted. The idea that my "I" is up for sale disturbs me.

Can I come back. Am I supposed to. I see glimmers of me. I see the creation of possibility. I don't know what I want. I cant stand the now. I can't even think of the now for a few minutes with out feeling a deep seeded rage about life.

Can school continue to mold me, God continue to shape me, and will I let it happen. What will I let win out. The me... or the them. What should win out.?

Me is so selfish, so individualistic. Them is not me, the absence of, but its for the collectivist ways. Its so ensnared, so confused. I just needed this vent.

Whats bad is good?

I've just got done reading the Hunger game series by suzanne collins(good reads.. fyi.. some spoilers as well below read with caution),when it hit me, I was a capitol citizen.

What does that mean, one may ask. Simpley this. A person who lives life greatly unaware of the world around them. I live in a world were everything I want is a simple click of a button, flick of a switch, or accessable by the movement of my finger tips. I order food that I don't finish, throw out spoiled food, clothes that are no longer in style I dismiss. I waste my time concerned with what I should wear and what romance might fall my way. I don't really spend to much time thinking outside of myself.





In suzanne collins second book of hunger games series, catching fire, the main character is at a party were the guests of this party engage in gorging themselves full of food. These guest then vomit up the food so that they can re-gorge .. simply put just for the sheer joy of having a full belly. So much waste. So ridiculous, right,?, when in these stories people are starving to death.
These citizens celebrate the main charachter for her ability to kill others and survive. They watch killings every year and praise the contestants as if they are Gods.. wrong right??

If I think that was ridiculous (along with the many uneducated acts of the capitol citizens) how can I not find my own daily living ridiculous?

Is it excusable to waste so much of my time on entertainment excess when people around the world die from starvation, curable diseases, or are forced into slavery every day? Every day I decide to buy a peice of clothing not made in the US, or I watch a show that advertises abuse and ignores the harms, I am making that excuse.

I am a capitol citizen. I will watch the hunger games no matter how wrong I think they are. No matter how awful it is to see. Its mere entertainment. I waste my time reading the gossip of the Kardashians, buying ashton kutchers clothing line, all for mere entertainment (yet I am supporting what they stand for.. unfaithfulness, lying, selfishness, ego-centrism... and so on.)I buy products that were made by little hands (god forbid that my daughter ever have to work 16 hour shifts in a factory to make10 dollars) as long as I can have that shirt.


So here I sit. On my computer. Feeling like I am solving my own issue. I'm a better person than those of the capitol, because I write about it, because I'm recognizing it... right?

What can I do? How can I change what I am, what is acceptable. What is really bad that I see as good... how can I change my perception and no longer be a capitol citizen?
I can watch the minature earth youtube video (http://youtu.be/drSDhlnm0e0) over and over and over, and still I have no idea how to change me. If I can change me maybe I can really make a difference. Maybe I will do something. Maybe something will get better for someone else. Maybe.
I wrote this poem today after obsessing about this idea.
So here it is for all the world to share:

On the edge of what once was
No one thing is the same
Taking a plunge to be free

To the edge of what will be
Seeking the expected
No wings there to guide me

Every choice and every chance
has mercies evil glance
Life just a false romance
can we really even dance

To the brink of what is
Its familiar now
Shackled just trying to be

Every choice and every chance
has mercies evil glance
Life just a false romance
can we really even dance

Trust in life

Delayed post. Just updating!

So its almost my birthday. Another year passing always makes me feel the need to look back on life events.

Needless to say looking back always makes me think of what I want or what I hoped would be.



Nothing really looks like I wanted it to. All the things I had hoped for myself, are not even a whisper of reality. Its a bit frustrating to think I can plan my life. Every time I take the wheel, I lead myself straight into a ditch. Its hard to accept that I am not in charge of Gods will and plans for my life. Yes.. my current thoughts are "Dear God.. I want it this way.. or Else.. please.."

or Else what, right? Or else I will feel even worse about being so off. If what I want doesn't ever occur, than am I really in tune with God? If I am asking for all the wrong things.. how do I even begin asking for the right things, when I have no idea that what I want isn't really all that great .. because what Gods design is, and what he decides to give me is really better than anything I can fathom.



Gods plan is great. I need to trust him more. Its often hard given the circumstances my family is in, and the circumstances I have found myself in as well, make me question Gods greater plan.



Trust is hard for me. Faith always is a big scarey idea for me and crossing over into trusting God completely always seems strange to me.

All this questioning has led me to writing little notes on my mirrors and hands.. all with the same general idea, trust God. Yesterday I woke up, and decided I didn't want to trust God. I was irritated at how everything keeps going south in life.. so I scrubbed off the Trust God that was written on my palm and proceeded to go out the rest of my day ignoring God.

The thing with ignoring God, it doesn't really work, because God doesn't ignore us.. so it really was a silly attempt on my behalf, but i wanted God to see how frustrated I was. And when I am frustrated with someone I ignore them, and just like any relationship, I thought ignoring God would "show him". As the day progressed, it was easy enough to shut his voice out. To not pay attention to feeling loved by God. I went to the Gym and complained to my friend Jenny about how I needed a new sports bra. I didn't really want to get one because it seemed like a waste in my funds.

Then later in the evening I went for a run with my friend Jenn Getty. At some point during our time together she asked me if I could use a sports bra, because she had a brand new one that she couldn't use.

Needless to say.. later that evening when I decided to stop ignoring God, I started to cry. God does love me and his plan is good. I should trust him with all the big things in my life, because he is capable with my wants and needs. He gave me something small something really trivial, he showed me he loved me and that I should trust him by getting me a bra.



So this incident made me think back. It reminded me of how God really has set up my life to give me the best, he prepared me for hard times and good times. He gave me a great community, a great church, a great family. He planned the best for me. Now if only I could accept that and remember that everyday.



And a shout out to God: thanks you God for not ignoring me even when I want to ignore you.



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All Hallows Eve

I so much enjoy this time of year. Out of every season and holiday, I do believe fall could be my favorite.



Yes for those of you who though summer perhaps was my favorite, yes I do love summer because it brings out my inner river rat, but I love fall because of Halloween. As Halloween is my favorite holiday, fall perhaps truly is my favorite season.!

It has always seemed to me, to be the holiday where people plan the most ahead for others. Yes on Christmas we may buy friends and family presents a few months in advance.. but do we buy strangers presents? Not usually. On Halloween, we not only think of our friends and family, we go out of our way to plan for and think of giving to strangers.
It seems to me to be the ultimate holiday to celebrate community. Even though often people are going out of their way to scare one another, they are still going out of their way for someone they do not even know!. On Halloween neighbors you've never met, play spooky music and hand out candy. Some even make cotton candy and create a haunted house for others to enjoy.

With Halloween comes huge community gatherings outside of the mall. People in large numbers go out to enjoy their local pumpkin patch. They do so in search of the perfect pumpkin to carve and put on display.
Even the local pumpkin patch is a great community event. Pumpkin fields, corn mazes, animal farms, bouncy houses, hay bail rides, everything you can imagine doing on a farm.. set up for the community to enjoy.

This year I have gotten to enjoy a pumpkin farm twice! Have pumpkin seeds made for me by my best friend, have been invited to more Halloween parties than parties for the year, have been asked to go trick or treating with multiple friends, and been with so much community it makes me feel like the luckiest person on the planet.
**Sigh**
I love this time of year.

Today I can see!

Perhaps because I am a poet at heart I am destined to be a bit moody and depressed. Maybe its because I am a woman or better yet, perhaps its the way I was created. I have a best friend who is always happy. I think its her nature to find the positive, and to just be bubbly. It feels like it is my nature, to be kind of the opposite. The drag. The worrier.

My mom was always worried about me. At one point in my youth I wore all black. I read dark books, and never let the sun touch my skin. She intervened by making me recycle my dark books, and either read peppy books or go out side. At the time I was mad at her, but looking back, she probably saved me from becoming some strange pale sad creature.. that I was obviously trying to be.

The name of my URL of my blog, swallowing more sorrow than coca cola, and then its name Sorrowful thoughts in a vintage light, are even a bit depressing. I know my mom doesn't approve, but yet I find my depressing names, some what creative. They are meaningful, and come from books I have read, and things ideas have changed my life. (So even though they sound some what depressing, mom, they really aren't :). )

My nature however has been slowly changing. Over three years ago I separated from my husband (now x). I thought I wouldn't make it. Yes I know I am a bit of a drama queen by saying that, but I did not think I WOULD EVER survive a divorce. It was only through Gods love that I did.

I was so angry for the longest time. So moody about my whole situation. Some times I still get moody about it. I find that I begin to think about what happened and the fact that its not what I had planned for my life. WHY does Gods plan have to be so different than mine? I wanted an intact family. I want to have a HUSBAND. I want to have the typical family unit. Is that really so much to want? I don't really believe it is so much to want. AND I can feel it that Gods design for me does, one day, include a husband. BUT for now, he wants me to master the art of being one with Him and being OK with my current situation.

Its easy to get side tracked, pulled away from faith. I focus on the fact that I now have a broken family. That my daughter has to live the life I NEVER wanted for her. I sit there and focus on this. Sometimes I focus so hard on the bad I forget about the truth of my situation. After telling a friend not to stare at a closed door, and to focus on some windows, I realized, I better do the exact same thing. Change my perception.

So I prayed. At first I felt God was being silent. It makes me mad when I feel his silence. I feel shunned. BUT most of the time, I realize I am not listening.. or in truth he is saying something that makes NO SENSE to me at the time, I SHUN him. Sad, but true.

After praying for a while, and being frustrated I decided to be angry. Then, I felt my anger swiftly get taken away from me by a few simple words.. that sounded like they came from my own brain, but really I know are his words. YOU HAVE A FAMILY!

What I have a family. ?? I am so busy worrying about what I do not have. I fill up my mind with unnecessary woes and cares, with don't haves. I forget the DO HAVES.

I may not have the typical family unit. But I do have Gods family. I know a decade ago, I would have died laughing at the thought of me considering a church my family, but today I do. My church family is real. So many people from my church love me, and I love them. Then theres my group of close lady friends. They are not just friends, in my last blog I entitled them sisters... And in doing so.. how was it not obvious to me then that Gods family.. was mine?? not sure.. but to continue.. even women I have just made friends with have become like family. Even some men friends have become like brothers. Who would have thought, I loose a family, but I never really lost my entire family. God provided me with a family unit so amazing.. that its depressing to me that I didn't realize it.!

So today I wake up again, so lucky, 2 whole days in a row, truly feeling Gods love. Today I can see it. I know it. I hope I don't forget it and go blind again.

My special thanks to all my friends and family at Allen Creek Community Church. (Ron, Helen, Twila, Janae, Trina, Mark, Debbie, Tim, Julie, Greg, Nate, JT, Jan, Judy, Norma, Chrissie, Valen, Sarah, the Hazens, Casey, and everyone else!) To my family (My mom, dad, my millions of sisters, my daughter, my nephews, my neices, my grandmothers, and grandfather)
All my bible study ladies (Jenny, Amanda, Monica) My close friends (Heather P and Heather F, Jamie, Krystal, Candis)

Thank you all for being my family. For being such a support to me. A blessing from God. You all show me that Gods Love is Real.

I love you all!